A new movie just came out called "The Bourne Legacy." The title itself just sounds epic doesn't it? For me, any phrase or title that has the name "Legacy" in it captures my attention. Why is that? There's honor, strength, courage and integrity found in a legacy. These are character traits that are passed on through the generations. You know the word "Legacy" as defined in the 1828 Webster's Dictionary means “to send." Someone who leaves a legacy is sending on not just good qualities to try and achieve, but rather a way of life.
A person held captive in the cell of pornography has only one way of living: shackled. They may seem on the outside like a free, energetic, successful person, but their heart and mind is only as free as the jailer allows it to be. When the jailer decides to torture the mind and heart with pornography, it seems like there is no other option than to submit once again to sexual bondage. This is no way of life; this is destruction one day at a time. Is this what I want to send on to my family? Absolutely not, and here's why.
I have a beautiful wife. She loves me with all of my flaws, insecurities and
weird habits. My heart goes crazy for her! I deep down desire to honor, love
and respect her above all else. Honor, respect, love. Those are qualities I
want to send on to my wife. If I become a weak, shackle bound husband to
pornography yet say I love and respect my wife, what kind of man am I becoming?
More importantly, what kind of man am I teaching my son to become or my
daughter to marry? Now, I realize that pornography is not just a male struggle
but women struggle with this as well. The same principle applies to both men
and women: We must ask ourselves what character qualities we want to send on to
our families and the generations to come.
What's so incredibly difficult with any addiction is rejecting the lies and believing the truth. You see the true deception behind pornography that every slave must reject the belief that their bondage isn't hurting anybody else around them. Nowadays, you can view it anywhere thus making it easy to view in the darkness of your own soul. Yet, bit by bit, the more the viewer becomes enslaved, the more their family becomes enslaved. I'm not saying the family starts viewing porn, but they are being enslaved to the wretched punishment of selfishness. The wife/husband starts to become inadequate in all areas of life. The kids become more of a "have to" instead of a "want to." The bank account starts to deplete because of ongoing payments to support deeper bondage. The whole family system crumbles when selfishness decides being alone is better than dealing with all the pain being caused by poor decisions. Divorce is imminent and the family is no more. The truth that each slave must accept in order to be free is: The fight isn't about you.
You see, I fight not for myself anymore, but for my family. I fight for my wife and her honor. I fight to be the dad and role model that my soon to be first born child deserves. I fight to send on character qualities that do not enslave my family but rather lead them along a path supported by honor, respect and love. I fight for the upcoming generation of families; with the goal of building a different foundation than the one that is crumbling underneath their feet.
The fight against pornography isn't about me and it isn't about you. The fight is about everyone else I come into contact with. The question that fuels my inner warrior and I challenge you with today is this:
"What will be your legacy?"
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