Some people might wonder about the difference between the experience of a healthy
sexual relationship with a loved one and the sexual experience of pornography.
It’s easy to think, “Hey, they’re both sexual so it’s just two kinds of the
same thing, right?” Are they?
It’s easy to think that since they both involve sexual feelings they are two forms of the same thing or two points on the same continuum.
If that were true, then
let’s look at the facts. There are 4 times fewer satisfaction neurochemicals
after climax to porn than after climax within a healthy relationship. But what the brain starts
to forget is that it deserves more satisfaction than this—much more than a
synthetic high. It’s
far more than just a simple difference in the amount of pleasure. In watching
pornography, the possibility of actually connecting to another human being is
not there. It just isn’t.
viewers physiological system is being manipulated to respond to an image… with
the body provoked by someone that is not really there. That’s why actual sex
and pornography are not two forms of the same thing. Imagine using Baby Tylenol
to try and relieve the pain from a broken leg or drinking a Coke to satisfy the
hunger from a week of starvation.
kind of what the brain is stuck with by using porn for a connection. Because
there isn’t an actual person involved with porn, a viewer misses out on all of
the benefits that come from connecting with another person. We need each other.
We need real people present with us and porn isn’t real.
Users might be thinking, "But wait a minute, pornography feels good. Viewing it is just expressing a natural drive, so isn’t resisting pornography unnatural? After all, these sexual desires are good and shouldn't be suppressed.”
According to that perspective, pornography use is natural and normal because the body has a built-in appetite for sex. Is that true? Well, that's a little like saying that Twinkies are natural because they’re edible and the body is built to eat.
The food industry has figured out that by combining certain ingredients (especially refined sugar, fat, and salt) they can trigger a huge chemical rush in your body and produce the biggest dopamine pistol whip in the cranium.
You probably think we're joking, but one researcher spent a whole year tracking down every ingredient that went into the Twinkie—all THIRTY-NINE of them. They include the preservative ascorbic acid (derived from natural gas), artificial colors, and flavorings (formulated from petroleum). Cellulose gum, Polysorbate 60, and calcium sulfate are ingredients also used in sheet rock, shampoo, and rocket fuel. Limestone is used to make Twinkies lightweight.
That’s right, there are skeletons of marine microorganisms and coral in every bite. It’s almost like they grabbed a shovel and scooped up some soil from the offshore basins of Indiana when they formulated the recipe for the Twinkie.
Bottom line, while the Twinkie is a finely crafted product that packs a punch in its taste, it is only barely a food. It has no nutritional value of any kind.
that a problem? It doesn't do any damage does it? Let me check... YEP!
Have you ever wondered why you sometimes feel uneasy after eating junk food? Although the body may get an initial buzz off this “food,” the product has been so significantly altered from its natural form that your body has a difficult time recognizing it as food. Your body can actually switch into attack mode where white blood cells attack the food you eat—thinking it is an enemy.
Like an appetite for food, sexual feelings are of course a normal part of physiology. What isn't normal is the complex system that pornography industries have developed to capitalize off our sexual appetite.
Porn users might wonder why they felt sick after a dose of pornography in their early use. That’s because the healthy sexuality has been soaked, filtered, boiled, synthesized, and wholly exaggerated from its original form- all with an aim of creating the biggest chemical rush possible in the body. That is why we talk about porn being a “drug” we “use.” Can you see how something destructive might actually feel like a positive experience?
Pornography is a counterfeit sexual experience. Synthetic sexuality just doesn’t cut it; it is merely an imitation that can do some serious harm.
Now, when we say “pornography” in this discussion, recognize that there are many forms of synthetic sexuality. Pornography can be visual (pictures or videos), it can be written (blogs or books), and it can even appear in music. It can also be interactive like online chatting or talking over the phone.
unites all of these is the fact that they’re all artificially enhanced sexual
stimulation and that they are damaging to healthy sexuality. What can seem like
harmless entertainment can really hurt a viewer’s relationships with those they
love and distort their expectations on having a realistic and healthy romance.